We’re not relationship experts. Certainly not. But we raised four daughters and we’ve talked to a lot of college-aged women about relationships over the years. Here’s a list of 25 questions we sometimes share with Christian young women who are evaluating the possibility of a relationship with a Christian man who has shown some interest.

  1. Is he a committed Christian? (If not, don’t bother with questions 2-25. Just walk away.)

  2. Are the two of you friends already? (Not yet? Perhaps you should think about ways to get to know each other without romantically dating…)

  3. Do you respect him?

  4. Does he tend to speak well of others when he’s not with them?

  5. Does he willingly submit to people in authority over him? (employers, teachers, parents, church leaders)

  6. Does he play a lot of video games? More than you are comfortable with? How much time does he spend online?

  7. Have you ever seen him angry? Is this something you have noticed frequently?

  8. Do you look forward to hanging out with him in regular, non-romantic situations?

  9. Does he make you nervous? Are you able to be yourself with him?

  10. Is he inappropriately affectionate to girls in general?

  11. Is he pushy? Is he patient?

  12. Does he treat service people with respect? (servers in restaurants, cashiers, etc.)

  13. Does he demonstrate leadership in any area of life? Does he appear passive?

  14. Does he maintain healthy relationships with other